Widowed Husband & Solo Father at 32

Loss at any age and circumstance is always hard, but becoming a widowed Husband and solo Father at 32 was just something I couldn’t ever of imaged happening. This wasn’t how it was meant to be. To wake up as a happy 32 year old Husband and Father with our second baby on the way, then by the end of that day to have suffered the unexpected death of my beautiful Wife with baby. Our world had been completely turned upside down and I was left facing the task of delivering the news to our four year old Son that Mummy & baby had died.

The aim of His Grief is to provide a story with the perspective of hope to others out there experiencing their own battles…

widowed husband offering men's grief support

Sharing our experience of traumatic loss and life after.

Experiencing such unexpected & traumatic loss at a young age left me feeling very isolated. I remember feeling like I was the only one, nobody I knew had an experienced loss & grief like this. There was an overwhelming feeling that I couldn’t share or open up fully with those around me, as I felt they just wouldn’t ‘get it’. Deep within I knew I needed that first little bit of hope. Seeing with my own eyes that it was actually possible, seeing someone who had unfortunately experienced such loss and grief but had managed to rebuild some sort of life after.

Getting that initial piece of hope came in the form of the first time I saw someone else’s story who had walked in similar shoes to me. I liken it to the ‘one minute mile theory’. Once I had seen it was actually possible to heal, to live through such severe pain and trauma. From the start to where I am today, I would have never believed possible. Which is why I’m so passionate on providing that hope to others who just might need that initial shard of light.

Just keep going

Some of the amazing words from supporting others experiencing loss and speaking on resilience and grief

“Thank you Ben. Completely bowled over by your strength and courage. Thank you for highlighting such as important issue around how we support men and how this approach might differ from how we support women.”

CDR Conference

“Listening to Ben had a huge impact on me. Hearing first hand his experiences really bought home to me how as professionals we can impact on others and the long-term effects this may bring. This has made me more aware of how I present and portray myself.”

NHS Department

“Wow. Best 2 hours of teaching/training I have had in a long time. Needless to say the opening speaker Ben brought it all home for us with his painful and moving experience.”

ACDR Annual Conference

Reach Out

It would be great to hear from you, so feel free to drop me a message.